Just the Ticket! Couples Who Vacation Separately

Couples who Vacation Separately

Taking a vacation without your partner needn't be seen as a threat to your relationship - nor should your partner's wanting a week away on his own give you cause to believe that there's trouble in store for the two of you. Providing your relationship is a healthy and strong one, and your separate vacations aren't because you both want to escape from each other, there's undoubtedly more to gain from vacationing alone than there is to lose from it.

In fact, taking time out from each other may just help you to re-discover an appreciation for your partner that's been missing from your relationship for some time. Couples vacation separately for a number of reasons.

While some couples take their separate vacations at the same time as each, others are similar and so have to schedule their time around these demands. Whatever the reason for taking a break without their partner, a vacation of this sort can provide the perfect opportunity to spend time alone to pursue a hobby or to learn a new skill.

However, while it can provide the perfect opportunity for personal development, as well as help to rejuvenate your relationship, it's unlikely that a vacation from your significant other will help strengthen your relationship if it's on the rocks. And unless both of you are in agreement to separate vacations it could signal the end.

While taking a separate vacation could give your relationship the kick-start it's been in need of for a while, it's important that you both know why you're doing what you're doing and that you're both given the just assume that your partner won't be interested in coming along with you to a location he's previously shown no interest in.  If your partner raises concerns about the two of you taking separate vacations, find out what these are, and address them.

For example, he may be worried about how he'll cope looking after the kids while you're away. And there's little point in arranging a vacation if you're going to be constantly thinking about what's happening at home, and he's going to be resenting you for having left him alone to cope! If his concerns aren't so much about how he and the children will survive without you, but rather what you'll be getting up to without him around, then these concerns may take a little more talking through.

It's unlikely that a separate vacation will help your partner with any trust issues he may have, especially if you're planning a trip away with a group of girlfriends, the majority of whom are single. But again it's important that you both understand, and accept, what's involved in your vacationing without him. As well as reassuring your partner about your intentions for your time away from him, you will need to be completely honest and upfront as to why you want it.

Consider your true motivations for your vacation.

If your relationship has hit a sticky patch and you want time out to consider your next move, then be honest with your partner. Don't pretend that all in the garden is rosy when you know it's not. It's hardly fair on your other half if you return home from your vacation only to promptly announce that the holiday has given you the space you needed to think and now you're moving out!

The financial aspects also need to be discussed to ensure that the costs of both your vacation and any trip your partner plans to take can be met. Separate vacations can work for a couple because while two people may be in love and enjoy spending time together, it's unlikely that they will have identical interests, hobbies, and aspirations.

In the early stages of a relationship, there's less chance that a couple will want to vacation separately; the throes of first love and an eagerness to discover everything about the other person are usually enough to make vacations together a given. But as two people grow together they may discover new interests that aren't shared by their partner.

Add to this the confidence that people gain from being part of a strong and someone could quite happily take time away from his or her partner every now and then. It's no reflection on the relationship, other than to show that the union is strong and functioning well.